I have specific experience and understanding in the field of addiction in many of its forms but particularly substances such as drugs and alcohol.
I spent 12 years as a Counsellor with a Substance Misuse Service seeing clients for long and short term therapy who wanted to address their addiction. This type of therapy is, however, often longer term as usually there are so many underlying issues that have been buried for a long time and patience and trust is needed for this uncovering. I work at the pace of the client and do not push, rush or have any set expectations. The nature of addiction is similar across all of its forms and can be a distraction or an attempt to cover or numb out emotions which seem too hard to bear.
Relationships can be a major addiction and the highs and lows experienced when 'using' any substance can be felt. The desire to make the relationship fill a void, to be the way you 'want it to be' but is not how it is in reality, can all be clues that your relationship is not healthy. Many people say they cannot exist without ....partner.....girlfriend....wife... but this is in actuality not a truth but merely a belief which keeps a person stuck in unhealthy ways and feeling unhappy.
By being able to be open and honest in therapy the real needs which you are trying (unsuccessfully) to meet within the relationship, can be addressed and brought out into the open to be explored and de-mystified. Relationships and addictive behaviours are very common and when uncovered and worked through, a sense of freedom is felt and a healthy relationship has a chance of being formed.
I was a Counsellor with Brook Cornwall for 13 years (5 years Lead Counsellor). I have experience seeing clients aged 13 years upwards covering issues such as pregnancy, termination, Sexual Health screening and diagnosis of STIs, relationships and Family issues.
I saw Young People with substance addictions addressing the reasons and causes of this coping behaviour in an attempt to make changes early in their life.
Bereavement, Grief and Loss
I began the Cornwall Blind Counselling Service in 1997 and saw clients until 2015 for Counselling sessions. I have therefore gained vast experience and knowledge of the ways loss in any form affects us and how this impacts on families, parents and partners as well as on the person who is grieving that loss.